#Lifestyle choices

[ceevee5]

[blackzer0]

When depression hits you and you're taking unhealthy lifestyle choices with pure joy.

I was in copycat modus!

[salonnierealexis]

Sentiments like these have made some worry that heteropessimism is not only a form of pessimism about heterosexuality but about feminism, too. That would line up with other signs of resignation around activism in the wake of Mr. Trump’s latest victory, as some anti-Trump voters said they feared the dangers of protesting or saw no use in it. It would also track with the longtime fears of many feminists that young women — perhaps adopting a warped understanding of the maxim “the personal is political” — are embracing individual lifestyle choices over collective struggle.

Men? Maybe Not.

The election made clear that America’s gender divide is stark. What’s a heterosexual woman to do?

https://www.nytimes.com/2024/11/16/style/women-trump-4b-movement-heteropessimism.html?campaign_id=2&emc=edit_th_20241117&instance_id=139848&nl=today%27s-headlines®i_id=43453557&segment_id=183387&user_id=06f6767785a14352b47f4490384ee56a

[crmsnmth]

Go Back Home

I was dumb enough to believe in my words on poems and line that don't make sense and I find myself giving my everything to try and make the words a bit more intense I can't talk to strangers and hell is a crowd Yet, I always turn the music up loud Who the hell is dumb enough to ever take my advice?

I've got nowhere else to go so fuck it, I'll just go back home

I was desperate enough to fuck it all up I slept on benches and quiet side streets Call the cops but keep yourself grounded

I've got nowhere else to go so fuck it, I'll just go back home

I boldly dove in too bad it was in the shallow end and nothing makes sense and I can't even read Lost my skill for making poignant facts and clever one liners for a crowd made only in my head So I resort to cheap trickery and lose any soul I had at least in this side of the world

I've got nowhere else to go so fuck it, I'll just go back home

I desperately needed connection something I lost when she said goodbye and nothing more it's quiet but we're still surrounded As we sit and pick at our open sores Get ready to scatter and hit the alleys Meet up by the traffic lights Who the hell is dumb enough to take my advice?

I've got nowhere else to go so fuck it, I'll just go back home

[this-antisocial-crank]

Life Lesson

Sometimes, it is you. You are the problem.

Some of the choices and decisions you have made and continue to make are absolutely terrible.

But, you're a dumbass.

And so, you'll continue walking down the same path, wondering why nothing has changed.

[zaftigpink]

[saber-monet]

what is YOUR American dream?

like obviously there the generic American dream, which is owning a home in suburbia, having a partner and 3.5 kids. But that's just what has been told us. What is your American dream like outside of the programing?

What is your American dream? You know too much about the American landscape and the different types of communities and living styles available to everyone.

Do you wanna live near a retirement community in Florida? Just going on walks and having a solid group of people that you see every day?

Do you want to live on an isolated ranch in North Dakota? Only going into town once a week to get necessities?

Do you want to live in New York City? Being a social butterfly and floating between friend groups and communities at your leisure?

Do you want to live an organic hippie lifestyle on a commune in Arizona?

and something I like to do when planning or envisioning these types of lifestyles Is acknowledging that this will probably only go on for about 5-10 years.

10 years is the maximum amount of time I will probably spend engaging with that lifestyle and that way of being before i want something new. The limitation of the time Span kills the limerence, and makes me approach my desires in a more "realistic" way.

[vizthedatum]

Thinking about how to beat performative all-or-nothing thinking vs. listening to your body

you don't have to do the whole workout if it's going to push you into a flare, meltdown, or a lack of energy in a significant way (even 5-10 minutes of movement is BETTER than doing an hour of cardio; stopping when you're done is VALID)

"fed is best," regardless of what you're eating (can't even tell you how many times I just didn't eat because I couldn't cook, buy food, or decide to eat)

what incremental lifestyle choices can you do right now that make things sustainable?

collect information and data on yourself: for example, taking note of when you're shutting down and what led up to it

don't shame yourself for doing 1% of the *thing* when you want to do 100%

don't shame yourself for not doing it at all

if it's stressing you out MORE to do the *thing* -- change your approach, figure out if your way to do the thing is the issue

you may not be able to heal, do the things you want to do, change behaviors IF you hate your body (valid feeling tho), hate doing those things, or overscrutinize those behaviors

drop your expectations

do it badly!!!

do it in a silly way - do it in an angry way - do it in a way that makes absolutely no sense

your life situation is NOT stagnant - know you have the power to change things, to change your commitment level, to take back your consent, etc.

[katiajewelbox]

It seems that a lot of people have transitioned to a more solitary lifestyle after the pandemic. I liked this thoughtful and balanced article's take on the situation. My interpretation is that it is not the hours spent surrounded my other people that count, but the quality of the connections that matter.

Here's a personal example:

One might assume that a single and childfree person living in a rural village would be really lonely, but that's not the case. In many ways, I feel more content and connected living in the village and perhaps seeing another person less than once per day than I did working in the lab at Imperial College, where I was surrounded by many people but the interactions were stressful and impersonal for the most part. The difference is, that when I meet a neighbour in the village we stop for a warm and friendly 10 minute chat.

I feel like this supposed "lack of a social life" is just another way to shame and guilt people about doing what is actually the best and most natural for them. Like many things in life, it is quality over quantity.

[techdriveplay]

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[my-financials]

The FIRE Movement: A Comprehensive Guide to Financial Independence and Early Retirement

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[phantomgecko]

I just asked my soon-to-be sister-in-law her bra and underwear size so I could buy her some cute lingerie.

Her response was "I don't really even know about bra and underwear size but like a small"

Is this normal?!? Like, bra sizes are one of the only woman's clothing things based on cold, hard measurements. One of the few things we can buy practically tailored. Are people really shrugging off a perfect fit for a nebulous some sizes fit some people????

So I gotta know...

Like rn I'm mostly wearing nursing bras which only came in s/m/l, and they suck. They do things bras are technically supposed to do but very poorly. It's transformative to put on a normal bra that fits more specifically.

[personalgrowthoasis]

Navigating Faith: My Spiritual Journey Through Orthodox Christianity

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[this-antisocial-crank]

Life Lesson

Don't moan about situations which you have some level of control over.

If you do not enjoy what you are doing, stop doing it.

And, if the situation is out of your control, change your outlook or just remove yourself completely.

Quit bitchin' about how bad your life is, unless you just enjoy bitchin'... then just keep on keep keeping on bitchin', init.

[tapan4evr]

True me.. Tap-2001..

Our choices shape our lives. From what we eat to how we spend our time, every decision matters. By making good choices, we can live healthier, happier lives. Every decision shapes our lives. Make good ones and live well. Let’s make the most of our choices and live our best lives. Tap..✌️

[kids-worldfun]

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